Why is dating so complicated
The opposite of love isn’t hate; it is indifference.
Ghosting, for those of you who haven’t yet experienced it, is having someone that you believe cares about you, whether it be a friend or someone you are dating, disappear from contact without any explanation at all. Ghosting isn’t new—people have long done disappearing acts—but years ago this kind of behavior was considered limited to a certain type of scoundrel.
It won't make the pain go away completely and in my experience, it never does - but it will lessen it.
And to all the ghoster's out there, if you have even the tiniest bit of a heart then please, please change your ways.
He would disappear for months at the time because, according to him, he had his own issues that he wanted to solve them alone.
I was left alone, wondering what I had done wrong, what happened, why was I being "punished", why did he pushed me away. Years later, he admitted that he had other women and even had fathered a child during those awful years.
When a rejection occurs your self-esteem can drop which social psychologists propose is meant to be a signal that your social belonging is low.
If you have been through multiple ghostings or if your self-esteem is already low you are likely to experience the rejection as even more painful, and it may take you longer to get over it as people with lower-self-esteem have less natural opioid (pain-killer) released into the brain after a rejection when compared to those whose self-esteem is higher.
When you've shared so much of yourself with a person, it's going to hurt that they no longer want you in their life.
It essentially renders you powerless and leaves you with no opportunity to ask questions or be provided with information that would help you emotionally process the experience.
It silences you and prevents you from expressing your emotions and being heard, which is important for maintaining your self-esteem.
None of those things are qualities of someone you want to be with romantically or platonically.
When she feels the pain creeping in she should try focusing on that.
The more it happens, either to themselves or their friends, the more people become desensitized to it and the more likely they are to do it to someone else.