Now I think it might have been better if we hadn't ever met. Hi there I registered with this site just so I could post this lol. It's disgusting and no one should ever be put through this.
I've known people who have cheated on their partner and even though they are the ones who have done wrong, they still believe they are the victims and constantly bitch and put the other half down.
She says that she doesn't want to do it and it makes her feel bad but she can't control herself.
Meanwhile, my wife is sleeping like a baby and her expressions of remorse consist of telling me one time that she's sorry (I apologized more remorsefully when I broke one of her candles). Most recently she revealed that she didn't use protection (! Encourage her to bring home the guy, and try to take part.
) and she's participated in orgies, master-slave relationships, anonymous sex and attempted to trade sex for favors from her employer (who she still works for). Slowly but surely se will find that her secret sex acts are not so "exciting" anymore - than were before. ([email protected] if you would need any similar comment) I would reply to these, because I do appreciate the responses, but I don't know what to say to any of this.
It's a complex issue and I've never been more confused. If you are going to continue this relationship, require of her that you get counseling, too, and you go to counseling together in addition to her counseling. I'm only new to admitting I have a problem and I'm sure every case is different. Think of that; sex addiction is not the worst thing what can happen with a wife. The real propelling force of it the "game", the "secret", the "unconvetional".
I can't sleep more than 3 hours per night and I've lost 12 pounds so far this week. You have every right to be angry, hurt, violated, etc. You really are going to have to decide if you really can forgive her, if you can live with what she did to you and does she really love you as much as you do her. Don't make any rash decisions, but take care of yourself, too. You have every right to feel betrayed hurt angry etc... Personally I did it to run away from my problems and live in a fantasy world. You can count easily 20 or more much more painful, tragic, mortal, etc. And do not forget - sex is always the same independently of the participants.
For the first time in our marriage, I'm beginning to regret having married her.